I don’t talk about politics in this space, and I fully intend for it to be a place where everyone who is interested in creating a more thoughtful, joyful life through craft and making will feel welcome, regardless of their feelings about which party is better able to govern. But some things are beyond politics, and that’s what I’d like to say a little bit about here, while I’m very aware that feelings are still running high on both sides. Maybe we can start by agreeing that it’s been quite a week?
I made an intentional choice quite a while ago to not hold back from sharing, here and elsewhere, how much I care about preserving our planet, and nurturing our relationships with natural systems. Whether you believe that it’s God’s creation, or that we are here by an entirely random, incredibly lucky chance, surely we can agree that life on this Earth is a gift, and it’s up to us to take care of the environment and the other creatures here, if for no other reason than that we are the ones who have the power to protect or destroy, and it is so good for our own spirits to engage with nature. I hope we can also agree that every human being has a right to live free from fear and hate, and no matter how far from reality that may be right now around the world, we can work toward that goal.
After the election, I started looking around for things I could do to make a difference, anything I could think of that might bring us together and let us start to talk about where we can find common ground and move forward, rather than demonizing the other side and driving us even further apart.
One of the first things that occurred to me was to be kind to the individual people I meet as I go through my day, regardless of how much or little I know about them, or the judgments I’m tempted to make when I first see them. I’m not alone in thinking about this. I’ve heard it spontaneously both from friends of mine via text, and from people I’ve never met speaking on the radio. Somehow it seems to have been an available, actionable idea in the minds of a lot of folks, which must be a good thing!
For me personally though, I was really surprised at the actual power it has. Like a lot of writers and creative folks are I think, I’m a naturally shy person. I’d rather be quiet and observant, especially in strange or complicated situations, and I don’t usually want to engage with strangers. Until last week, I wasn’t fully aware of how that awkwardness on my part can come off as a coldness that the people I meet can sense, making our encounters strained. The most amazing thing about having the intention of kindness is that I don’t even have to do anything or say anything, so I get to skip what seemed like the hardest part before. If I merely walk into a room or up to a person with the intent to be kind to them, they can sense it (just like they could sense my previous reluctance) and we spontaneously start to have friendly conversations, leading to lovely encounters that brighten the day with a genuine acknowledgement of our shared humanity. I swear it’s true, it just happens! I don’t have to change the way my mind works, I just have to set out to be intentionally kind. I’ll freely admit that in the first week of trying this, some days it’s been easier than others. But I’ve made a personal commitment that I will try to do it every day, from now on. Since I tried it and saw the wholly unexpected beauty there, it might be impossible to stop.
So I’m starting with kindness, meeting with friends, making things, and talking about ideas. I still believe in my bones that all of our actions, all of our intentions and words and the things we make with our hands, these all make a difference, and they all can be a part of building a brighter future.
From my hands and heart to yours!
thank you for sharing! you are a wonderful person. i may get to where you are, but i am still struggling… keep it up & good luck! 🙂
A lot of people are still struggling—including me some days! It’s hard to see how we can find enough common ground to work on problems we face, but I hope each one of us can make a little bit of a difference. I know there are good people on both sides … as my cousin said, “Love, tolerance and discussion is the only way forward!”
Thanks for this! I’ve been trying to keep this in mind. Sometimes it is as small a thing as saying Hello instead of Excuse me in the grocery store- looking for connection instead of space or avoidance. I’ve been checking out http://www.civilconversationsproject.org
but there must be even more, um, gritty(?) heart to heart explorations of these conflicts available to those of us who aren’t often confronted with them in our day to day.
Thanks for you!! much fondness and gratitude, Kimbersew
Thanks for joining in Kimberly! Well put about looking for connection, I think that’s exactly it. I also just heard about a podcast called The Civilist which looks to be trying to do what we’re talking about—explore hot-button issues without descending into flame wars: http://www.pri.org/programs/civilist-steven-petrow
Sending you warm wishes as well!
So beautifully written – thank you Tasha.
Thank you Amanda for being there! And for introducing me to On Being, where the Civil Conversations project that Kimberly mentioned above lives, and where I find so much in hope in people thinking deeply and fully about the big questions and how to make a better world!